We do more than make your day look pretty; we orchestrate, coordinate and manage the event, allowing you to relax and enjoy your celebration.

Let’s be honest, every bride in the history of brides has gotten unsolicited advice from mothers, cousins, and strangers who all think they know best. It’s part of life and especially a part of wedding planning! So, what’s the key to saying “no” to all the comments and avoiding any drama? Set wedding planning boundaries from the moment that glittery engagement ring is on your finger.

Top Tips for Setting Wedding Planning Boundaries

Girl, after planning over 230+ weddings, I can tell you I’ve seen it all (or most of it anyways… there are always surprises). A lot of the drama, fights, and stress in wedding planning comes from a lack of boundaries while wedding planning.

So, let’s avoid that, shall we?

Here are my top tips for how to set boundaries when wedding planning:

Start with a Plan

In order to set boundaries, you have to have a good understanding of what you’re envisioning for your wedding day. Without a solid plan that includes what style you’re looking for, what type of venue you love, what food you want to nibble on, what kind of dress you want to wear—the list goes on—you won’t be able to set boundaries. So, take a step back when you get engaged and think about what you really want so you can protect those desires with everything you’ve got!

Decide What Matters to You Most

Once you know what you want, prioritize. Money is one thing that causes a lot of drama and unsolicited advice so using this as an example. Maybe you and your fiancé have always wanted a band, but your mother-in-law doesn’t think people will like it and it’s a good place to save money because DJs are sometimes a little more affordable. Simply tell her that the band is something you’ve always wanted to have, and you’ve saved money on cheaper invitations and favors to have your dream band perform. Simple! Prioritize and don’t waver when someone questions what you want.

Choose a Timeline & Stick to It

Want to get married in 3 months or 3 years? Who cares, it’s up to you! When it comes to your big day and choosing a date, a lot of people will have opinions. Choose a timeline that is comfortable for you, your fiancée, and what you envision for your wedding and stick to it! Don’t let anyone rush you or try to slow you down.

Communicate, Communicate, Communicate

Clear communication is KEY when it comes to setting wedding planning boundaries. You need to be clear in what you expect from people, clear on where you’re willing to accept or not accept advice or opinions, clear on what YOU want. Don’t beat around the bush, be direct, and others will be less likely to try to walk all over you and respect your vision for your day.

Say “No” to Anything & Everything That Doesn’t Bring Joy

Let’s be honest, a lot of us are people pleasers through and through. You don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings by saying you don’t want to open presents at your shower or you don’t want to get married in a church. But at the end of the day, if it’s not making YOU happy, why are you doing it? Marie Kondo that sh*t and say no to anything that doesn’t bring you joy, girl. I promise it will make planning SO much more enjoyable.

Let Your Fiancé Handle Their Family

I’m going to assume there’s a lot of ladies reading this. Sometimes men don’t love wedding planning, it’s normal. But what they do need to do is handle their own families. You don’t want to be starting drama with the mother-in-law before that wedding band is on your pretty little finger. So, if there’s something your fiancé’s family is doing to make you uncomfortable, have them stand by your side and put their foot down.

Make it Clear You Have the Final Decision-Making Power

I’ve said it a few times and I’ll say it again. THIS IS YOUR DAY! Which means, you have the final decision-making powers to bring your wedding day to life. Even if someone else is footing the bill, it’s not their wedding. Make it clear that even though you are so appreciative of their support, ideas, and love, you’re going to do it your way.

Delegate & Enlist Help Where You’re Comfortable

A lot of times friends and family are overbearing because they love you and want to be involved. Weddings are fun and super exciting, so it’s understandable. And let’s be honest, no bride can plan an entire wedding alone, not even Superwoman. So, determine where you’re comfortable sharing some responsibility and get those you love involved (with clear directions, of course) and it should help eliminate the need for more boundaries because they’re helping out on your terms.

Anticipate Where You’ll Run into Headaches

If you know where your mom is usually the most opinionated, if you know which bridesmaid is going to step over the line, think about that before you start planning. With those scenarios in mind, you can set boundaries upfront to prevent them!

Learn the Art of Smile & Nod

When all else fails, just smile, nod, and move on. You can’t control everyone and everything, it’s impossible—and if you try, you’re going to set yourself up for even more stress. So, know when to walk away and take some deep breaths… maybe paired with a shot of tequila or two… and you’ll be in for a much less stressful planning experience.

So… let’s take out a pen and paper and get to writing down those boundaries, shall we? Putting something in ink is one perfect way to stick to it.

The Only One-Liner You Need to Set Wedding Planning Boundaries

When you start getting all the questions about all the things and simply don’t want to share… this is what you say:

“We’re not sure yet! We’re taking a second to soak up every minute and enjoy engaged life – we’ll share details when we have them, thanks so much for your ideas!”

This way, you’re responding in a civil manner, but also stopping the conversation making it clear that you’re in charge of your own wedding day and you’re the one making decisions!

Take out your phone and copy and paste this into a note so you have it for any unwelcome wedding chats. You got this girl. I have faith in you!

Need More Stress-Free Wedding Planning Tips?

Now, setting wedding planning boundaries can be hard when you feel lost during the planning process. You may feel overwhelmed and welcome advice, but then feel worse when you don’t like people sharing their ideas and opinions for your day. You may just simply not know what you don’t know because you have never planned a wedding before—totally understandable.

The good news?

I’ve got your back, girlfriend!

I’ve created a self-led wedding planning course called The Bridal Method. It’s got 200+ juicy pages filled with the only advice you need with advice from a seasoned pro (ahem, that’s me 😉) on how to plan your wedding step-by-step, none of the unsolicited advice or drama.

It will help you feel confident that you know what you’re doing, you know what’s best for you, and show you what you need to do so you can set those wedding planning boundaries and enjoy the process, rather than resent it.

Check out The Bridal Method today and start setting those wedding planning boundaries, girl! You’ll only wish you found it sooner… let’s get to planning, shall we?

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We do more than make your day look pretty; we orchestrate, coordinate and manage the event, allowing you to relax and enjoy the celebration.